How to make someone love you and he does not love you

How to make someone love you and he does not love you

The importance of love

Love is considered one of the most important and complex human feelings, as it is related to human happiness, so the loved and beloved person feels happiness and contentment, and unlike the popular notion that love comes suddenly, but it can be considered a behavior and skill that a person can strengthen, develop and maintain through learning and practicing some personal skills. Remember that exchanging feelings of love between two people is a personal decision, so no one can feel love against his will, and this decision must be respected, and in this article we will talk about how to make someone love you when he does not love you, and advice for those looking for love. [1] 

How to make someone love you and he does not love you

It is natural that a person does not get the love of all people, because each individual has a unique personality that differs in its preferences and view of things, but some steps can be taken to try to change someone’s feelings to love and improve the relationship with him, and the following are some of them: [2]

Ascertaining the person's true feelings

It is important for the person to be clear about his feelings and to express them openly to the other party, and if there are some behaviors issued by the opposite person that bear the meanings of lack of love, it is advisable to look at these behaviors in an objective manner, away from feelings, or resort to a third party if possible to judge those situations From a neutral point of view, the openness session between the two people in which a discussion is made about the manner of dealing, and the positions between the two parties to understand the actions of each party, and to inquire clearly about the feelings of the other party is the best way to ascertain the true feelings despite being a step that needs courage, and the acceptance of the party The other is for dialogue, and if it turns out that the opposite party does not want to open his heart or exchange feelings in any way, it is preferable to understand his decision, respect his opinion and not pressure him. [2]

Reconsider the reasons for not loving

Dialogue between the two parties helps to understand the point of view of the other party and arrive at the reasons for not loving him, and to deal with it it is advisable to reconsider and analyze these reasons, and try to solve them by sincerely apologizing for mistakes, modifying behaviors if possible, clarifying the full intention to improve the situation and providing what is necessary for the success of the relationship . [2]

Treat generously

A person can change the viewpoint of others about him by giving them gifts and making beautiful memories with them, and generosity can be in phrases and style of conversation as well. When an individual mentions the merits and characteristics of the person he loves in front of others, this leaves a distinctive imprint on his heart, and makes him think of exchanging love with him. [3]

Interest in the other party

Studies have shown that developing the skill of listening has a big role in a person falling in love. People like to show interest in them and their conversations, and that the person’s speech is not only centered around himself, but rather involves the opposite party in the conversation and gives him time to express his opinion, and not to change the topic of the conversation quickly. This is so that he can express himself, and it is preferable for the dialogue to be interactive by asking questions and expressing reactions that indicate interest in the conversation and enjoying it, and it is recommended to appreciate the smallest things that a person does and accept it as it is, as this increases the chance of meeting love with love. [4] [3]

Maintain eye contact

The difficulty lies in maintaining eye contact as a result of shyness sometimes, but a psychological study from Harvard University has shown that loving couples maintain eye contact between them by 75% during the conversation, so it is advised to resist looking away when speaking, perhaps the opposite party is exchanging the feeling of love. [4]

Keep smiling

A scientific study has proven that the smile shows a person in a way that is more attractive to others, and encourages them to stay around him [4] . It also gives a feeling that the person deserves trust, can be relied upon, and makes the other party think of exchanging feelings with him to enter into a long-term relationship. [3]

Tips for those looking for love

be patient

Where it is advised not to rush the other party and pressure him to obtain his love, as this may be a reason for his alienation further, as individuals need for a period of time to change their opinion about people to give them their feelings and open up with them. [5]

Focus on self-development

Where the self-confident person who has aspirations and dreams that he strives to achieve is considered more attractive in the eyes of others, and the importance of health care and outward appearance is no less than focusing on self and personality development , and it is recommended to exercise, eat healthy food, follow a personal hygiene routine, and wear beautiful and clean clothes. And it is important that the motive for doing all this is not only to please and impress the other party, as it is preferable for self-care and its development to stem from contentment and self-love, and attention can be focused on the skills and hobbies that a person prefers and trying to attain achievements in them, where talking about what is considered A person loves him with a passion that is attractive to others. [6]

Exercise morals

The best way to practice high morals is to start treating others the way a person would like to be treated. It is not possible to wait for good treatment from others without taking the initiative to deal with the best of them, and the feelings of love also apply. The person must be loving so that the other party reciprocates the same feeling, and not wait for someone's love without making an effort for that. [6]

Talk about personal experiences

To make the interviewer close and interested, talk to him about personal experiences and weaknesses that have been overcome; Where appreciation and understanding can be obtained without the need to mask him from idealism, and in this way the opposite party expresses his feelings openly over time. [6]

Get ready to receive love

It is important that the person who is interested in making another person love him is ready to receive love by focusing on the relationship and giving it priority, trying to disengage or thinking about other people and to separate his current relationship from any previous experiences, and to be ready for commitment in the relationship for a long time, all of these things are encouraged The opposite person has to think seriously about exchanging love . [6]

References

1. ↑ Ellen McGrath (1-12-2002)، "The Power of Love"، www.psychologytoday.com، Retrieved 4-2-2020.
2. ^ "How to Get Someone Who Hates You to Like You", www.wikihow.com,1-11-2019، Retrieved 4-2-2020.
3. ^  Apollonia Ponti, "Make Him Fall In Love! The Right Way!"، www.apolloniaponti.com, Retrieved 5-2-2020. Edited.
4. ^LANE MOORE (21-5-2015), "6 Scientifically Proven Ways to Make Someone Fall for You"، www.cosmopolitan.com, Retrieved 5-2-2020. Edited.
5. ↑ Daniel Long (14-6-2019), "How to Make a Man Fall Madly in Love With You: 13 Tips on Making a Guy Like You"، pairedlife.com, Retrieved 5-2-2020. Edited.
6. ^ Paul Chernyak (19-1-2020), "How to Make Someone Fall in Love with You"، www.wikihow.com, Retrieved 5-2-2020. Edited.